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過激な発言は避ける

 

相手の言う事は否定しないというのがゴールデンルールです。いきなり否定すると喧嘩になってしまいます。まず相手がなぜそのような事を言うのかを理解しようとする事から会話ははじめてゆきましょう。理解しようとする姿勢を見せるとお相手の方もこちらを理解しようとします。お互い否定しあっていても話は平行線なのですね。めったな事では相手は否定しないほうがいいというのがゴールデンルールなのですね。「自分を理解してもらいたかったら、相手を理解する」とカーネギーさんは言っていますね。そうすると相手も、こちらの事を理解するようになってきます。やさしさを出せば、やさしさが返ってくるのですね。憎しみを出せば、憎しみが返ってきます。世の中は「出したものが返る」というごく簡単な法則で動いています。

もし、どうしても相手の意見と反対の意見を持っているならば、過激な発言を避けながら慎重に話しをするのがよいとされます。いきなり否定されると人間の心理は自分をばかにされたように思って余計に意固地になってしまいます。「それはダメです。」と言わないで「それは過去にちょっと問題がありまして・・」と言うように和らげて言う事が大切です。その一つ一つが良好な対人関係を築きます。「言いたい事ははっきりと言う」という人がいます。一見裏表もなくてよい人のように思えます。しかし、これは実は悪魔のルールなのですね。もし、それを実行したならば、周囲が敵だらけになってしまう事でしょう。ゴールデンルールは敵なんて作ってはいけないのですね。味方をたくさん作りましょう。反対するときは対案を持って、しかも、慎重に言葉を選びながら言う事が大切です。

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